Bride supported for serving cheaper food at wedding reception: ‘Your rules’
You can’t please everyone, and that’s especially true when it comes to weddings. Although stories of bridezillas regularly go viral, there is also an endless supply of nightmarish guests.
Whether it’s a “little” mother-in-law in a white dress or “out of place” jokes in the witness speech, with so many personalities in one place, you just can’t predict. how the big day will unfold.
Yet a pre-wedding guest’s food complaint has a bride on edge before her ceremony has even begun. Assignment at Mumsnet’s AIBU (am I being unreasonable?) forum on Saturday, the woman asked if she was “stingy” in choosing to have a buffet rather than a sit-down meal at her wedding.
User MimosasInFrance explained that she and her fiancé were forced to plan their wedding quickly due to the illness of a family member. As the ceremony was taking place during the holiday season, they had decided to organize a Christmas-themed hot buffet for their wedding breakfast.
nobody is hungry
She wrote: “We opted for a hot buffet for the meal – probably a Christmas rotisserie type situation (a good one!) because we thought it was a bit more relaxed and also honestly it was less dear.
“I also thought that people with special eating habits (like my family members!) might find it less stressful than a three-course sit-down meal.
“We serve lots of wine and soft drinks etc. It’s a twilight wedding so I don’t think anyone should go hungry.”
However, a parent’s comment causes the bride to question her decision.
She continued, “I just had a reaction from a family member who seems to think it’s akin to serving beans on toast, and it’s got me in a panic. Everyone go- does he hate it and think we’re stingy?
“I try not to get caught up in everyone’s expectations because I know that’s how the costs get out of control.
“Aibu to serve a buffet?”
There are about 2.6 million marriages in the United States in 2022, the most since 1984. According to The marriage report, couples who previously had to postpone or cancel their weddings due to COVID are responsible for the large number of ceremonies taking place this year. However, the effects of the pandemic are still visible, with couples facing record costs to walk down the aisle.
The average cost of a wedding rose from $24,000 to $27,000 after the pandemic, thanks to the highest inflation in 40 years. Venues are also expected to lose money from delayed weddings, with pre-pandemic agreed rates not covering today’s ceremony costs.
Mumsnet users saw no problems with the bride’s buffet plan, with almost 200 comments from people showing their support.
“A sculpted Christmas buffet sounds like heaven!” says frankly absurd.
USaYwHatNow agreed, writing, “I think that sounds like a great idea. Warm comfort foods for a winter wedding, perfect!”
Many users have reminded the bride that it is her wedding, so she and her groom should choose what makes them happy.
“Your marriage, your rules,” Iamnotamermaid said.
“It’s a free meal for them, no one has the right to complain or say they don’t like it!” writes sintrawest.
“Do whatever YOU want at YOUR wedding,” Ginandslippers commented. “If they don’t like it, they don’t have to come, it’s simple.”
Although 1VY has made some suggestions to help customers who might be struggling with a buffet.
“[It] can be very inconvenient for some guests, especially older parents [or] disabled guests who cannot stand in line for 10 minutes while balancing a plate,” she explained.
“I think it works best if you have staff serving the food because it stops the greedy bastards pushing [to] the front taking more than its fair share.
“[Basically] you need someone from the wait staff to MANAGE it, maybe calling a few tables at a time and giving priority to older relatives etc.”
A user claiming to be an event planner agreed, adding, “As an event planner, I strongly urge you to consider the logistics of the layout. You’d be surprised how many sites don’t plan this properly. at all.
“It sounds crazy, but I imitated setting up really big events to streamline lunches, and they really thought about everything, like where the cutlery is picked up, where the trash goes, what people are holding.
“The feedback [improves] dramatically if you think about the logistics.”