The bride disinvites her guest because of the color of her dress
Marriages can be tough, especially when someone doesn’t respect your wishes, which is why this woman shared her story with Reddit’s “AITA” subreddit.
In the subreddit, Redditors can share any disputes they have with the community and have members judged within three verdicts: NTA (Not the asshole), YTA (You’re the asshole), or ESH (Everyone is the asshole). is zero here).
This young woman wants to know if she would be the asshole (AH) for not inviting her college friend to her wedding because of the color of her dress.
As her August nuptials approached, the bride confirmed RSVPs to finalize things. Eventually, she spoke with one of her friends from college, and the subject of wedding attire came up.
Her friend “B” had never been to a non-family wedding before, so she was particularly excited about the wedding. While her friend “B” is “ethnically white”, the bride is South Asian; therefore, her wedding will not look like a traditional Western wedding with a white dress.
‘B’ wanted to wear a sari to her wedding, so she ended up telling him ‘a few places she could find a nice one and she went shopping’, but she made sure to tell him that she wouldn’t. couldn’t wear red because “red was [their] color of the bride, so it should be avoided.
Despite her warning, her friend “fell in love with a red and gold saree” and bought it for the wedding.
She repeated to him that red was her wedding color and that she “needed to find another outfit”.
“B” told her it wouldn’t matter on the day, but she was offended because “it’s the equivalent of someone wearing a white dress to a Western wedding”.
Now ‘B’ refuses to compromise her outfit because she has no other opportunity to wear it, but the bride is uncomfortable with the fact that she is wearing red and gold during of his big day.
Would she be the AH for not asking her about it?
With a unanimous vote from fellow Redditors, the bride was deemed NTA.
Many like “banjo_fandango” felt that if her friend was going to keep pushing to wear the saree, then she should “stay home and wear it there.”
Other users agreed, with one Redditor mentioning they felt “second-hand embarrassed” just imagining the guest sitting at home wearing the sari because she thought it was okay to wear it to a wedding. .
Some users found it offensive to blatantly ignore someone’s wishes.
“JohnDanwick” felt that what “B” had done was disrespectful, and “[h]uh not having another opportunity to wear it is not [her] problem,” then she shouldn’t feel bad.
Another Redditor agreed and wondered if it was because OP’s marriage was “a culture not her own” that she felt comfortable disrespecting her friend like she did it.
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And a majority of Reddit users pointed out that “B” doesn’t seem like a real friend.
One user felt that by knowingly buying the red saree, ‘B’ was trying to pressure the bride into letting her wear it. This is not the sign of a true friend.
“-Dollface” agreed, believing what “B” had done was “super selfish and legit.” Dressing up seems more important than supporting her friend on her wedding day.
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Ashley Darkwa-Anto is a New Jersey-based writer at YourTango. She covers News & Entertainment.